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(This article was inspired by and is dedicated to my exceptionally talented daughter, Alexis as she learns to navigate the brilliance of her referent power.) You’ve heard me in TikTok posts talk about a special superpower that high performers have that makes you a frighteningly significant threat to your organization’s insecure underperformers, to your dysfunctional family, and to your frenemies. High performers are sitting on a superpower that's referred to in the leadersh

Gurl, it's Christmas, and as a High Performer, you've already been nice , not naughty . As a result, you're supposed to be able to just tell Santa what you want for Christmas, and it will be under your tree on Christmas morning. Regarding work and career, most of us just want the same gifts/presents, i.e., "PRIVILEGES" that our mediocre performing co-workers have, such as access to good leaders who can provide us with quality mentoring and coaching. However, as you have disap

Probably the hardest part of my individual performance coaching and culturally informed trauma work is getting clients to let go of their delusions and well-meaning fantasies about work and career.  They've believed in these fairytales so long that even when confronted with the reality of who or what is causing them great duress at work, it remains almost impossible to wrest free from long-held feelings of loss/grief they feel about how things at work should  be or should  ha

The neuroscience (brain research) of high performers reveals that, as a high performer, we have more efficient neural processing, maintain better focus by using our brain cycles efficiently, and cultivate/practice specific elite performer mindsets and behaviors. This includes managing cognitive load, utilizing key neurotransmitters like dopamine and acetylcholine for motivation and learning, and developing physical and mental agility. As high performers, we may not be fully c

Each month, I will share the latest findings and research on the psychology of workplace trauma to help you better comprehend the what, how, and why of your high performer workplace trauma. If you follow me on TikTok, you may recall some of my early posts that explained how you were being traumatized by the micro and macroaggressions you faced as a high-performing Black woman in the workplace. I also made a few posts urging you to stop helping/rescuing undeserving coworkers w

What to do about your horribly traumatizing situation at work, when you’ve tried denying it, deep breathing it away, ignoring or repressing your anger and grief, as well as venting to others about it, but you "just can't get tf over it"? It starts with understanding that we CANNOT just power through having a traumatized brain and dysregulated nervous system. You can't just “get tf over it” because the long-term chronic abuse you experience at the hands of undercover racists

Beloveds, I’ve been talking to you on Tik Tok for about a year about the concept of STRATEGIC RESILIENCE as your superpower or the magic elixir to ensure you sur-thrive  long-term, debilitating, racist-based workplace trauma. You ARE going to sur-thrive the workplace micro/macroaggressions, the unfair punishment for your unicorn-like, high-performing Black Excellence because YOU CAN. In this article, I explain how resilience works, what behaviors to STOP, and what behaviors t

Beloved, part of my culturally informed trauma-informed work is to help you, using my TikTok page, this website, and these blog posts, to help you understand more about why you are the way you are and do the things you do over and over again. Self-awareness is the superpower that is necessary to acquire as a precursor to your healing and workplace trauma resolution. So today, let's talk about your people-pleasing tendencies, which you’ve brought from your childhood trauma int

My theory behind relentless self-care is that it’s a primary protective factor designed to fortify your level of resilience against the debilitating workplace trauma  that you experience as a high-performing black woman. Relentless means never ceasing . Self-care is your implied commitment to  putting YOU first  because “gurl…those dusty ass NARCISSISTS at work are NOT gonna kill you on my watch”. If you still need a reason to commit to your self-care in addition to your decl

In today's world, high-performing Black women are making significant strides in various fields. They are leaders, innovators, and change-makers. However, the journey can be challenging. The unique experiences of Black women in the workplace often come with additional hurdles. This blog post aims to highlight essential support resources that can empower high-performing Black women to thrive in their careers and personal lives. Understanding the Landscape High-performing Black

In today's world, the workplace should be a space of growth, collaboration, and support. However, for many Black women, it can often feel like a battleground. The challenges faced in professional environments can lead to trauma that affects not only career progression but also mental and emotional well-being. This guide aims to provide practical steps for healing workplace trauma, empowering Black women to reclaim their space and thrive. Understanding Workplace Trauma Workpla

In today's fast-paced work environment, stress and burnout are common challenges. Many employees face overwhelming pressure, leading to mental health issues. This is where therapy and counseling come into play. They can be vital tools for workplace healing journeys. Therapy and counseling provide a safe space for individuals to express their feelings and experiences. They help employees navigate their emotions and improve their mental well-being. In this blog post, we will ex